Textual Reflexions

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One of the most interesting psychological syndromes, in my humble opinion, is what I call the “You are not my friend” syndrome. Even if it is not so widespread, I think that its effects are worth to be noted.

The syndrome can cause a great discomfort, bad mood and turning pale. The triggering object of these effects is a person with a deep relationship with the sick, but which the latter hates secretly. The sick tries to break every relationship with the trigger, but usually fails for many reasons.

People affected by this syndrome are socially and emotionally unfitted. They are people that change oftenly mood and they share a low self esteem that generates problems in the relationship with other people. The first contact with the trigger, as far as I can tell, happens due to the “Red cross” syndrome that pushes the sick to try to help the trigger in a difficult situation.

The trigger is himself socially and emotionally unfitted and the sick tries to help him with some human contact. Very soon the sick understands that the trigger is in a no return situation, mainly because he doesn’t attempt to change his behaviour towards society. The situation degenerates and the trigger feels linked to the victim and calls her Friend, when, at the same time, the sick tries to break every contact with the trigger in a way, imposed by the “Red cross” syndrome, that won’t hurt the other person.

In this situation the sick is fully affected by the effects of the “You are not my friend” syndrome. The manifestations of the syndrome vary from person to person:

• At the lowest level the sick just feels uncomfortable when he is with the trigger.
• The sick may arrive to isolate himself from the society in order to avoid contact with the trigger. Mainly he closes his door, doesn’t answer to the phone, and generally avoids any unidentified communication. In the case when the communication is pre-identified, such as e-mail, cellular phone, the sick has just to ignore the communication.
• The sick says sentences such as “You are not my friend” or “We never were friends, so we won’t be” either directly to the trigger or when talking of him to the friends of the sick
• At one of the highest levels the sick has physiological answers to anything that reminds him the ‘trigger’. E.g. he can becomes of bad mood, he stops talking and he truns pale when his friends pronounce the name of the hated person.

Personally I know three people that were or are affected by this syndrome, one of them is me. I served also as a trigger for another “Friend” when considered with my eyes. It is selfexplaining that this “Friend” considers me in a different way.

The thing that most strike when considering this syndrome is that the sick cannot avoid the hated person even if he tries to. This is quite different from the normal human behaviour of “we don’t understand well each other” and presents two opposites vision of the same relationship, from the point of view of the sick and that of the trigger.

I am quite a illiterate, but I know an example of a similar situation from Catullus poetry, even if in this famous text the two opposite feelings dwell in the same person. For those who haven’t yet understood to what poem I am referring, it sound so:

Odi et amo quare id fortasse requiris
Nescio sed fieri sentio et excrucior.

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